So as Valentine’s Day is approaching, we need to remember some things to keep our marriages going in a positive direction.
Here are just a few tips:
Be accountable for the part you play in the relationship - good or bad.
When you take responsibility for your part in the marriage, you will then be able to connect with your partner in a mature, intimate way.
Focus on how you can be a blessing to your spouse. If you treat your spouse with respect, love, kindness and patience it’s easier to respond with the same rather than treating them with anger, disrespect and impatience. The positives will bless each of you and your marriage.
When your communicating with each other, use “I feel” statements instead of blaming with the word “You”. Sharing feelings and needs will open up your connection with each other rather than building walls with blaming comments.
Remember to go on Date Nights!!
Setting aside time to do something special on a regular basis will keep some excitement going in your marriage. It doesn’t have to be fancy or expensive, just time to connect and spend time just the 2 of you.
Some examples of simple date nights:
- Build a blanket fort, add some strings of lights and reminisce about how you met and fun experiences you’ve had together. (if you have kids, they may want to join you - ask them to give you a few minutes to have your time and then you can make it a family fort night)
- Find a new recipe, go to the store to get the ingredients, go home and make your meal. Enjoy your new creation by candlelight.
- Play a board game
- Write a prayer list and pray together
- Visit a nursing home and hand out flowers to everyone
- Take a walk in the moonlight
- Go for a long drive
- Rent a movie
- ENJOY EACH OTHER AND YOUR TIME TOGETHER!